Kurt Cobain and former Hole leader Courtney Love, is sharing her thoughts on her 30th birthday.  Cobain expressed her gratitude on Instagram, admitting, “Honestly, 20 year old Frances wasn’t sure that was going to happen.”

She explained, “At the time, an intrinsic sense of deep self loathing dictated by insecurity, destructive coping mechanisms and more trauma than my body or brain knew how to handle, informed how I saw myself and the world; through a lens of resentment for being brought into a life that seemingly attracted so much chaos and the kind of pain tied to grief that felt inescapable.”

She went on to say, “Then, an event on a plane which brought me closer in proximity to death is ironically the event that catapulted me towards running at this lived experience with radical gratitude. I’m glad to have proven myself wrong & to have found ways to transform pain into knowledge.”

She ended by saying, “There’s a quote by @jaiyajohn I hold closely, which is “the softer she became with herself, the softer she became with the world.” It’s a sentiment I try to remember daily.

Entering this new decade I hope to stay soft no matter how hardening the world can feel at times, bask in the present moment with reverence, shower the people I am lucky enough to love with more appreciation than words could ever do justice & hold space to keep learning, so the growth never stops.”